Is it Unreasonable to Expect to Love Your Job at 25?
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I want to have a job that I love. I want to do work that I find enriching and rewarding. I want to minimize stress as much as possible, get along with the people that I work with, make enough money to live, and be happy when I have to go to work. I know, of course, that this is the goal of a lot of people. I also know that there are a few lucky people who have this type of situation, and then there are a lot of people who work just to live. I have made a commitment to myself that I won’t get into a job that I hate, that makes me dread getting up in the morning. Is that unreasonable, especially at my age? And what can I do to make this happen?
I ask this question because I am not getting along with my boss at all. I won’t go into all the details here, but lets just say he is a problem person and is trying to change the terms of my employment contract after the fact, even though the point-at-issue is one which we specifically negotiated because I never would have agreed to what he wants from me. Anyhoo, I’m not going to do it and I told him as much, and he is sort of trying to bully me into it by saying he can’t have me work for him and do X. I don’t react well to this sort of thing, I’m obviously not going to give in and he doesn’t like it.
We will see what happens, I think if he was going to fire me over it he would have already, not to mention the fact that my contract is very clear… but it is still a problem to be dealing with all this needless drama.
In general, I just don’t like this man. He is patronizing and has a lot of cumbersome and silly demands that have to be followed RIGHT AWAY but when he is supposed to do things for his employees that are important (like turn in payroll and health insurance forms) he takes weeks to get around to it, and only gets around to it at all if you nag him constantly.
It is unfortunate that I don’t like him, because other than dealing with him, I love the job. Should I be happy with that? I don’t have to see him that regularly, although I do get annoying and stressful emails once or twice a week on average. When I write it out, it doesn’t seem that bad. But I can’t help but feel that it is not unreasonable to expect to be able to do a job I like, in an environment with people who make me feel appreciated for doing good work instead of stressed out and angry.
The whole job thing is especially frustrating to me because it is tied into all of our debt. If I didn’t have all this debt we could easily live on DH’s salary and have enough to do what we want/need to do and I could work on growing my own business and doing things I love. I wonder how many others, especially in my age bracket, are feeling like me… trapped in jobs that they don’t like to buy back student loans when they have all kinds of unfulfilled idea’s to create businesses that could actually grow and prosper and help this dismal economy…
